CRUSHES

Queen Icefire 411 · Joined: 22 Feb 2007 Posts: 107

Hello my friends*does hippie voice* sorry...i would just like to talk to soem people on here about crushes. plz answer these questions, i'm just curious!
1.what was the most embarrasing thing you've done(or when u/him asked u/him out?)
2.wat was the greatest?
3.were u in love? ever?

Plz no threads that are off topic eg. crush, crush, naruto...it just doesn't go ok.

Fawn · Joined: 28 Nov 2006 Posts: 550

As to your poll, no, I dont think you can be in 'love' when you are in grade 8. You can be infatuated yes, but not in love. I remember thinking I was so in love with 'boys' and it makes me sick to think I threw the word around so much. 'Ooo I love you I love you!' and the 'relationship' lasts a month kind of thing. You're still very immature in grade 8, not that that should be insulting, but your brain and your body is not developed yet, and 'couple' love is a very deep, ultimate feeling, which I believe is too complex for the underdeveloped brain. Maybe you can be drawn to a person when you're younger and fall in love together when you're older, but I believe there is a very fine line between love and infatuation. 'Love' shouldn't be 'squeee girlie scream!' it should be a personal, quiet, intense knowledge. That's only my opinion though.

Tiger_lily · Joined: 29 Nov 2006 Posts: 1259

i must say no also, though a simple crush may in time turn into a relationship and maybe something more.

i know because in 8th grade i meet the man i have been married to for 3 years now. though it took almost 2 years for my crush on him to turn into a relationship between us, and me getting the guts to ask since he did not.

love is more than just smiles and words, there is an ugly side that no one thinks about until it happens. a relationship is also a lot of work to keep in balance, if one side or the other does not put forth effort then it will fall eventually.

Cecelia · Joined: 16 Dec 2006 Posts: 1487

It depends on what you mean by " in love" . I personally am kinda confused on this too but I do know that real love in this world is hard to come by. Love means not caring about your own well being when you are considering theirs. Egos are not involved in real love and love is definitely not physical involvement. (not that you were implying that)
Anyways that is just my statement and opinion. Loving someone as a friend first is normally better. 8th grade is a bit young to declare your love for someone but caring strongly for them is a beautiful thing.
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Cecelia~thellamallady~

lorraine · Joined: 01 May 2007 Posts: 532

we are all pessimists on here!!! but I also must say no. I agree with the others about being infatuated but not in love. and for your questions..
I really don't know cause I really don't care about the dating thing to much right now. and like cecelia said declaring your love for them is probably not a good idea cause it'll probably cause you alot of pain later (I happen to agree with pretty much everything everyone said)

this is just my opinian plz don't be offended by anything I said Very Happy

Queen Icefire 411 · Joined: 22 Feb 2007 Posts: 107

I was just curious because when i was in 8th grade, the whole relationship thing was more in...but that was just my school. Now to move onto a diffrent topic...
1. What was ur worst experiance with dating and wat was ur best?

Please, this can be from any time in ur life...grrr i keep using msn language lol. <------SEE!

SisKate · Joined: 25 Sep 2007 Posts: 1837

I am in 8th grade.

No. I don't believe in any mature relationships of people being "in love" at this point in life. If it "is", than most likely the relationship is immature. Sure, I've had boyfriends this year and in years past, but are they really "boyfriends" or "girlfriends"? Nope, they are simply fake relationships. My opinion is my opinion Wink

And all I can say is, crushes happen all throughout life, and sometimes turn into something more, like Tiger said, but usually not. Crushes come and go, and we all know it.

My opinion.

SisKate