Stress Rant{|}:(

[Queso]

I know you can't hear tone over the internet so please understand that what I'm about say I mean in the nicest way possible.

If you want people's respect you have to earn it. I've seen you do things that seemed to me just a ploy to get attention. I've seen you be very rude to people, you've even been fairly nasty to me on a couple of occasions. I think that deep down you a sweet and caring person, but you need to controll your emotions better and really think things through before you post them. If you are having a bad day and are cranky, perhaps it would be wiser to lurk instead of post. If everything you post is thought-out and mature then people are going to view you that way. If you post on a day you are cranky, then its most likely going to come off poorly and people are going to loose some of their respect for you.

[PinkStar]

I totaly see where all of you are comign from, i think about and maybe you guys are right, I think its 50 50 somethimes you are right sometimes you take the comment to far. I have an important question I really want everyone to answer

Can I Start Over On A New Leaf?

I would really appreciate that! If i could i would be super happy. But dont get mad if I am under a little stress.. and I may be a little arrogent for a comment, But i promise I will try my hardest to control. Also keep in mind I am under stress and you dont want to push me over the edge

[Sterling]

In my oppinion, not to burst any bubbles (you're going the right way so far..), but don't you think you're a tad too dependent on SBF?

Not to sound mean, but why should you care about our oppinions? Sure, SBF as a whole is a community, but you don't even know any of us IRL. I think, that if you act the same way you do on here in RL, than yeah, you probably should turn over a new leaf. I don't mean that in a rude way though, it's just that dealing with a person who'll take little things overboard can be hard to tolerate.

-shurgs-

It's your choice if you want to 'turn over a new leaf', but a question to you, do you think it'll help better you as a human being outside of the internet? Because habits you learn online may get interpreted into your real life. (I'm living proof.)

Also, just a hint to probably get on our good sides (I doubt I'm the only one thinking this), but could you tone down your font a bit? Like, less bold and big? It's quite obnoixous.

[PinkStar]

- took Sterlings message offensive - ( sigh ) Sterling.. I cant accept your message, Why do you really care about what affects me in RL? i am as bubby and sweet as anyone.. Maybe not always but my friends accept me for who I am.. I really think your message is harsh and the comment about my text??? Its not that big.. this is big..

Hello


But thats who I am and I only live once right? Besides.. Sterling you do get a little mean at times to so we dont want to make you seem liek a hypocrite right?

Read over your message. Would you find that offensive if you were under my stress and in my shoes?

[American]

I'd have to agree with Ster. Text is a bit obnoxious. =/
And I'm not trying to be mean when I say this: Why must you always use 'stress' and 'difficulties in life' as an excuse for everything? I can understand that those are some problems with your life, but that's really no good reason to take it out on other people. I'm sorry but that kinda annoys me when people use that to get through when they said something wrong or did something wrong.

[PinkStar]

If my text was obnoxious why did no one say anything until now? And I know what I am stressed about and this WHOLE topic is about my stress so please dont tell me to stop saying that - said that in nicest way possible -

[Tanitsja]

because its the type of thing people generaly dont say anything about to be nice, and because they often think it may just be them and no one else seem to mind.

generaly a good tumb rule is keeping text size for normal messages to the normal size, and only use bigger and smaller font for creating specific effects, the big font means that it takes more scrolling to get through even the smallest messages (people generaly dont like scrolling), and *chough* the small shrinking make you squint or have to poke your nose into the screen (since we're discusing font )

also a general rule is when you use color, check the preview for readability, not all font colors show as well against the background of a forum, just because they are avaliable (generaly suplied as standard from the board maker), do not mean they work on all backgrounds

the shade sbf have makes color range of ligth yellow, orange and pink harder to read.

now that said, pinky this is not just you, try looking at this forum, try fliping down it and back a couple pages, how many is frustrated, anoyed, wants to leave, saying they feel no one cares, respects etc

these boards while filed as entery through a community link in the game, is en large a marketplace suporting the game, it got 1 and only 1 interaction board, its to little for really building community, the reason being that just because people all came here for the game, do not mean we otherwise have a lot in common all of us, and if your forced to be going on top of people you have litle in comon with interest wise and opinion wise...then of course you are going to get stressed, anoyed, frustrated and because of all this angry and sad

basicaly you got no where to go to withdraw to just hang with your friends, and not everyone in "class" that you may not want to hang with, and in all the noise of everyone chating togheter, you may not hear your friends as well as you would, if you where in a own room

because what also is shown in most these treads that all of those feeling they do not have friends, indeed do have them.

i'd say you should drum togheter all those who are unhappy and discuss solutions with the game admin, maybe the game can suply a community section, or be helpfull with a board where you can promote sorounding network clubs of the game, that the members set up themself

[Cecelia]

Just thought i'd pop in again.
Pinkie: I am willing to let you start over pretty much and I'm sure other people are too.Though you can never take back your words completely,if you start being kind all the time from now on. I'm sure people will give you a chance.
Please don't be mad at Ster. She means well but it's hard to put things into words sometimes.You are pretty dependent on SBF and that's not necessarily a bad thing,but I'm sure you have more important things going on in your life and SBF shouldn't be everything. For starters please don't get upset at people when they correct you for something.
An example is when you told Chicken Man that he wasn't going to win the giveaway because he was new.Others might have thought that but it shouldn't have been posted.When Chilly corrected you for it you got all dramatic.That's just one example.Please don't be upset with me.Your friendship means a lot.

Your Friend,Cec[/i]

[PinkStar]

Tan, Thanks for the info.. although could you clear the other stuff up a bit i had a hard time understanding it.

Cec, Umm first of all - in nicest way - I never told chicken man he wont win... Let me post my quote..

[PinkStar]

Chicken Man wrote:
thanks Chilly, for who ever is lucky to win congrats
i would use the money to help clubs and poor players (most newbies, no offense) i would also use to breed really good exotic species with almost extinct colors. im unhappy your leaving chilly, hopeyou change your mind!

my Comment: No offense.. your only three days old.. that makes you a newbie..arg..um..yeah

I NEVER said he would not win so PLEASE dont put wrds in my mouth

[Sterling]

[PinkStar]

No I dont.. I posted that 5 days ago

[shadow_spinner]

Posted: 08 May 2008 22:06


...Well, that's the first time I've heard a day ago yesterday be called five days.

[Tanitsja]

lol no problem , english isnt my mother language so i sometimes mess up, i also though i do try know i got a punctiation problem at times

what specificaly is it you dont understand?

if it is all of it, then the basic gist of the sum up was to not take it all in over yourself, because if you look at this forum there is like heaps of others who say the same thing

while some of it is inevitable in a community due to differences in personality (belive me i am member and staff in a community with 1000's of registrered members, and the conflicts i seen here is nothing in comparison to some of what we see there at times), i think some of it is also caused because SBF do not really have a community set up, but rather a mainly marketplace to suport the game setup

this is natural though considering that what the owner really offer is a game type that do not demand clans or so on for playing the games (unlike another i played where they had a forum to promote clans run by members themself), if you still want more of a community build up, my sugestion is that those that is interested in this, rally togheter and bring it up with the game owner/admin, and see if there cant be found a soloution

[PinkStar]